Korean culture interracial dating

17-May-2020 23:06

By Bo-Kyung Byun Unless you’ve been living under a rock, you know that the episode “Shocking Report on Relationships with Foreigners,” aired by Korea’s MBC TV network in late May, caused a great deal of controversy among the expat community as well as some head-scratching with its portrayal of foreign men who date Korean women as opportunistic, lewd and diseased criminals.The producers buttressed the bogus segment with ambiguous situations, uncited phone-interviews with female “victims,” and provocative language.However, one must remember that "han" is a double edged sword (or coin, if you will).It has some powerful positive influences too such as goal orientation to the extreme, creativity in music, dramas and movies, powerful "groupthink," extreme optimism, independent streak, national pride/patriotism, strong family and community bonds, etc.Below are some recent changes in marriage trends that are noteworthy: Trend #1: Marriage losing appeal to Koreans According to a survey conducted by Statistics Korea, 43% of respondents did not consider marriage a ‘must’ (vs. According to the Seoul metropolitan government’s survey on women in Seoul, 40% of women in Seoul considered marriage optional.Nearly half of the women in Seoul aged between 25 and 39 were single as of 2010 (vs. The survey by Statistics Korea also reported that 47% of respondents were willing to live with their boyfriends or girlfriends, something that was looked down upon in the past due the the Confucian culture.

Hence, Joe Schmoe from back home gets called "Brad Pitt" here. I'll also say that I don't buy into the racist assumptions around the issue of international/interracial dating; by virtue of personal experience, observation, and anecdote, the chimera of "white man hoodwinks hapless Korean woman" or "I'm sick of seeing white losers with Korean women above their station as a reflection of the neo-colonial relationship with the United States and a problematic colonized attitude vis a vis whiteness" are usually just longer and less honest ways of pretty much expressing disgust at interracial couples. Basically, if you don't like seeing white men with Korean women AS A RULE, you are making big generalizations and are being racist when you speak/act negatively against them. Yeah, one can quote statistics about "outmarriage" rates or the myriad alleged "wrong reasons" people get into relationships; but I know gentlemen who prefer blondes or redheads, girls who wear skimpy clothes, or just judge women by the size of their mammaries, but you'd have to go and ask about those, right?According to her, brown-haired guys were the best and my own preference for sandy blondes was written off as the sad result of having watched one too many chick flicks.Just when I was about to retaliate, I could hear the guy next to me chuckling, obviously having overheard our not-so-private conversation.Koreans, on the other had, developed a more aggressive national character because it had to in order to survive as a unique people and nation.This manifests itself most directly into "han." The negative characteristics of "han" are in taking things (including themselves) way too seriously, holding grudges, impulsiveness, not looking before one leaps, short tempers, overreading situations, obsessive/compulsiveness, wild swings between love and hate, lack of communications with people we don't know very well, etc.

Hence, Joe Schmoe from back home gets called "Brad Pitt" here. I'll also say that I don't buy into the racist assumptions around the issue of international/interracial dating; by virtue of personal experience, observation, and anecdote, the chimera of "white man hoodwinks hapless Korean woman" or "I'm sick of seeing white losers with Korean women above their station as a reflection of the neo-colonial relationship with the United States and a problematic colonized attitude vis a vis whiteness" are usually just longer and less honest ways of pretty much expressing disgust at interracial couples. Basically, if you don't like seeing white men with Korean women AS A RULE, you are making big generalizations and are being racist when you speak/act negatively against them. Yeah, one can quote statistics about "outmarriage" rates or the myriad alleged "wrong reasons" people get into relationships; but I know gentlemen who prefer blondes or redheads, girls who wear skimpy clothes, or just judge women by the size of their mammaries, but you'd have to go and ask about those, right?

According to her, brown-haired guys were the best and my own preference for sandy blondes was written off as the sad result of having watched one too many chick flicks.

Just when I was about to retaliate, I could hear the guy next to me chuckling, obviously having overheard our not-so-private conversation.

Koreans, on the other had, developed a more aggressive national character because it had to in order to survive as a unique people and nation.

This manifests itself most directly into "han." The negative characteristics of "han" are in taking things (including themselves) way too seriously, holding grudges, impulsiveness, not looking before one leaps, short tempers, overreading situations, obsessive/compulsiveness, wild swings between love and hate, lack of communications with people we don't know very well, etc.

Starting from April 2014, the government has implemented new visa requirements for foreigners who wish to marry Koreans and live in South Korea, e.g., basic Korean language skills of the foreign partner and financial proof of the Korean partner.