I am dating a black man

18-Oct-2019 10:05

My parents hated my husband the first time they met him.

They didn’t hate him because he was a theater major and out of work actor.

I already have to fight for respect with black men in hip-hop so when I get home I like things to be nice and easy. As a 23-year-old dark-skinned African-American female, I can partly understand Banks’ frustration with black men.

It all started with a simple selfie the “Ice Queen” rapper posted on Instagram where someone asked why she “dates old white dudes with money.” Azealia replied: “Because black men take black women for granted and I’m too busy with music to be fighting for my rights at home. We live in a world, especially within the black community, where everything is supposedly better when it’s “foreign.” Whether it be cars, clothes, or bundles of weave, we embrace nearly everything but our own – down to our men and women.

Unfortunately, for the black male, his comment did not offend me. I am accustomed to black men denigrating black women and have come to expect it. Many black male celebrities are married to or dating non-black women.

The comment didn’t deter him and he is still in search of his beautiful black queen.

Both insatiable and lazy, he is creator of chaos and maker of his own inevitable demise; he is forever guilty beyond a reasonable doubt. As angry and volatile as their female counterparts, black men, by their very presence, give society reason to assume the defensive.

He is simultaneously invisible and ever present in the minds and lives of white America. Debased, filthy and unworthy, black men, we are told, are sexual deviants incapable of either desiring or maintaining healthy, meaningful relationships.

It all started with a simple selfie the “Ice Queen” rapper posted on Instagram where someone asked why she “dates old white dudes with money.” Azealia replied: “Because black men take black women for granted and I’m too busy with music to be fighting for my rights at home. We live in a world, especially within the black community, where everything is supposedly better when it’s “foreign.” Whether it be cars, clothes, or bundles of weave, we embrace nearly everything but our own – down to our men and women. Unfortunately, for the black male, his comment did not offend me. I am accustomed to black men denigrating black women and have come to expect it. Many black male celebrities are married to or dating non-black women. The comment didn’t deter him and he is still in search of his beautiful black queen.Both insatiable and lazy, he is creator of chaos and maker of his own inevitable demise; he is forever guilty beyond a reasonable doubt. As angry and volatile as their female counterparts, black men, by their very presence, give society reason to assume the defensive.He is simultaneously invisible and ever present in the minds and lives of white America. Debased, filthy and unworthy, black men, we are told, are sexual deviants incapable of either desiring or maintaining healthy, meaningful relationships.They loathe their women so much that they even slander them in front of their white companions, much like the black male I mention in the opening paragraph.